We called this section LGBTQ+ because most people recognize the acronym LGBTQ, and the + tells you there’s more to it than that. You can check out a comprehensive terms and definitions list here. Things we wish everyone knew about being LGBTQ+
  • Sexual orientation, romantic orientation, and gender identity are fluid, which means they can flex and change over time. This doesn’t make someone’s identity any less valid or legitimate if it does change. 
  • Labels are important for people to create visibility and a sense of community, and to have language for shared experiences. Not everyone will identify with a label, and many people will have more than one. Do not categorize other people.
  • Coming out is not a one-time thing, it’s an ongoing process. It’s an individual decision, and there is no “right” way to do it. We get to decide for ourselves when and how we come out, and who we tell, and in what order. If someone comes out to you, respect that they have trusted you, so don’t “out” them to anyone else.
  • Check out the Gender Unicorn from TSER to see how attraction and identity are different!

Things we want to say to anyone who identifies as LGBTQ+ or who is questioning:

  • You are important.
  • You are valuable.
  • You are normal.
  • You are beautiful.
  • You don’t need “fixing.”
  • You belong.
  • You are welcome.
  • We love you.

For cisgender and straight folks who want to work toward being LGBTQ+ allies, check out some of these resources:Send The Right Message